It is serious what we do. I know it is not what we choose to talk about most of the time, but there is a reason for that.
This is just one of the many, many, many mommy blogs out there.
I try to post things here that are thoughtful and (hopefully) a little bit funny. I want people to come back, after all. And I try not to make it all mommy all the time.
But mommy blogs give an outlet to both the writers and the readers – a much needed one.
Because raising your children is one of the scariest and most serious things you will do in life.
One of my friends told her husband once not to get all high and mighty with his job and his responsibilities while she is a SAHM. He may very well be doing something important and serious, but she is making people. People who will one day be well-balanced, well-adjusted, responsible, happy human beings who will then go on to do good things with their lives. Top that.
She is so right.
You worry and fret. You model and teach. You set boundaries and rules. You hand out rewards and punishments.
You above all pray for their safety, because someone always knows someone else who has been struck with tragedy.
And all mothers know it can happen to them. Even if they are vigilant and responsible there are always sicknesses and accidents – the randomness of life – in addition to the danger and evil inherent in this world. I look back on my own life and know that there were a few times that, if things had gone just a little bit differently, I might be just another sad story.
And the fear of becoming a cautionary tale or a tragic story of loss is something mothers live with all the time. No mother will ever let her kid go off to camp or play football or drive without thinking about all the news stories she’s heard about a kid going missing or being injured or having a wreck.
But if we dwelled on this fear we would be paralyzed and damage our kids with our overprotectiveness. So that well-adjusted part would be out the window.
And that is why mommy blogs mostly talk about the funny and the inspirational parts of parenting, because not one of us need to be reminded of the Fear.
But a lot of moms take being moms so seriously that they forget to have a good time. Put up the dish gloves, let down their hair and just have a good damn time.
We need to laugh and enjoy what is right now because, although we give assurances to our kids that all will be fine and things will work out in the end, we know that happy endings are only a sure thing in fairy tales.
Real life is more unpredictable than that.
But as uncertain as it is and as scary as it can be, this life that we live and the children we raise are worth the risk we take by allowing them to carry our hearts with them every day.
That is why I put off dinner and threw the football with Ezra last night.
It is why so thoroughly enjoy t-ball games.
It is why I want to take the boys to Disney World and Washington DC and the beach and the mountains.
It is the uncertainty of life and the fleeting nature of it that gives deep meaning to having a good time and enjoying the people you love as much as you possibly can.
It is why we all need to make sure we have a good dose of fun to balance the responsibility of life.